The Long Road Ahead

So the idea for this post came from an interaction that I thought was mundane but after days of thinking that suddenly an epiphany struck me!

As a bit of a backstory, I was in a shop when the assistant and I started talking about each other’s day, to be honest with the fact that we are in a pandemic there hasn’t been much to do so I tend to automate most of these conversations cause there isn’t much in terms of meat to the conversation at the moment. 

Eventually, we were coming to the end of the conversation my response to her was something I’ve said more times than I can count “it’s like talking to the wall”  in my terms it’s meaning is me trying to tell people things and them not listening on purpose or out of ignorance and so why bother telling people anything “it’s like talking to the wall”  to which she agreed! And so our conversation ended till next we meet.

Days had passed I never really thought much about it but during one of my outings, while I was in the process of listening to an Aperture video on YouTube and then it hit me! it’s not about talking to the wall it’s about filtering out those people and reducing the time which you spend dealing and interacting with them.

It should be reciprocal, 

just like you should filter out who you interact with so they might filter you out not because you have done bad things, you might’ve, but people only have soo much energy or attention to give to these interactions that you need to pick and choose who, what where and when so that you aren’t bogged down by the weight of them and to stay sane.

Thinking of these things like space on your phone or on your computers hard drive what happens when there is no space? You start to slow down you cant add more (interaction) data to it and then you’ll be given a choice Deletion of files or defragmentation to remove excess junk or keep everything the way it is till things start to get messed up.

Think about it can you remember a mediocre or mundane conversation that you had last week? Or in the last month? Likewise, if you think about a conversation with some who is in your “filter” how well can you remember that? 

Also now that I think about it that conversation wasn’t as mundane as I thought especially given that it couldn’t have lasted more than 3-4 minutes max, I look forward to the next time I meet that person and sharing my thoughts on this if of course, I’m not the one filtered out. 😅